He's in one relationship after another?

[Greendaisy1116]

I was with someone for a very very long time, I loved him very much, and would like to think he loved me but I'm not sure anymore. We were together since we were 18, 10yrs. After 10yrs my last thought is to be in a new relationship. He broke up with me in a very cruel way and immediately jumped into a new relationship, he allowed this girl to handle all dealings with me, and it was awful. They broke up and he was in another relationship and so on. He's been in five in seven months, without so much of a day between relationships since we broke up. He even had an add on match.com describing our relationship exactly in what he was looking for. He wanted to be friends but I felt it was insincere, and cut off communication, 4 days later the girl he was dating he completely turned into a relationship. What the heck does this mean when someone does this. He didn't want to be in a relationship with me and said he needed freedom, so why the relationships???? It's weird.

[SueMay]

It sounds like he may have a strong aversion to long-term relationships, not wanting anything too permanent.

Maybe it has to do with commitment, or maybe he just realized he wants more experiences before committing. The only one who knows for sure...is him.

[jerseygirl]

He spent from 18 to 28 being monogamous with you. I think it's quite common for men who come out of very long relationships to play the field and date a lot. I agree that friends would be very bad for you right now. I know this hurts, but ask your friends to NOT tell you if or who he's dating, and have complete NC with him. If he's on your FB, delete him, you will never heal if you are looking at this page all the time.

[Greendaisy1116]

Yeah your right, and our relationship ended because he cheated, so he obviously can't be alone. He is a love addict. I am not talking to him again. Just thought it was crazy to leave one relationship to be in so many others and he isn't dating he is saying I love you lets move in with these people. just strange.

[euterpe]

I know a man like that. You are right; it is strange. It also means you nailed it on the head: addicted to love, or rather them falling in love with him. Once he has that, he probably gets bored... and starts looking for the "rush" again.

Good for you to move on and not talk to him. I have been there done that, and gotten more than a t-shirt out of it (sometimes love hurts).