Curious

[curiousgirl1984]

I am 25 year old female. For the last five years, I have been fantasizing about women. I like women that have boyish traits/looks. I had been married for nine years and my husband and I are getting a divorce now. There is this woman that I have (kind of) known for like nine months. Most people who meet her don't even realize she is a woman. My husband kept on calling her a man when we first met her and I had to try and whisper to him that she was a girl. It took a while for him to hear me. Well, ever since my husband and I have officially separated I keep running into her EVERYWHERE. It's not because she is stalking me either, we just keep on bumping into each other. She made the comment the other day that it must be a sign. We have started to talk on the phone and text sometimes. Ever since I met her, I have liked her and fantasized about her. I used to be with my husband and it was just that: a fantasy. Now, it is more real. I am pretty sure she would like to go further with me and I would with her as well. I am just very nervous since I have never been alone with a woman before. It's like being a virgin all over again. My husband and I were pretty experimental with our sexuality and we had threesomes with men/women both as well as with other couples. It wasn't the same though. Drugs were usually involved and it wasn't as personal as it would be in the situation I am imagining with my friend. I really like her alot and I am confused. She wants to take me and my kids swimming sometime soon and want to go but I don't want to do/say something dumb. I am also worried about the sex part. I know how to make a man happy but it's a whole different ball game with women. I don't even know what I am asking here but any advice would be nice.

Curious & Confused

[SueMay]

I understand your situation, as I have been there before. I am married to a man, but I have been in relationship with a woman before. It is quite different in some ways, but in most ways it's not really.

The only things I would suggest for you are to start out as friends, get to know each other, find out if you even like each other enough on a personal level to go further, and just see how things progress.

When I was in that situation, I did all I suggested above, and when it came time to further our relationship and have some bedroom fun, things just kind of clicked.

[curiousgirl1984]

Thanks a lot Sue May!!

curiousgirl1984